I talk with so many people who are today where I was a few years ago.
They are tired, they are fed up, and they don't want to continue on the path they are on right now.
All they want is to make a good life for them selves and for their loved ones. They want to be there for their children, for their parents that are needing their help more than ever. They want to have the energy to be with their friends, or to work out. And they are dreaming of some me-time where they could take a long shower or watch a serie on Netflix.
They want to have a meaningful life, without stress and anger.
(I know... There is always a "but"!)
They just want to have all this... They are not willing to do the work needed to get there. To get to a place where they have the energy to take a...
Think of the first steps when you're building a house. You don’t start with the walls or the windows. You have to start with the foundation, right?
Another great example is one of the fables we heard when we where children. The one that Walt Disney made a film of…
The three small pigs that built their homes like a protection towards the big scary wolf, remember? They built their houses of different materials.
The big scary wolf wanted to eat those three cute small pigs by blowing their houses down to reach them. He managed to blow down the houses built by the two small pigs. They just wanted to get a «quick fix», and built their houses of straw and sticks…
The fairytale ends...
Why, you might ask. Let me explain...:
People who feel like a fraud are normally people who are high achievers. You heard me! High achievers!
That is not bad! Every time you start getting the feeling of being a fraud, remember these words...
...And to lift you even higher:
It's especially common amongst successful professionals!
For those who have gained a great amount of success as defined by their industry, their age or their gender.
If you are feeling like a fraud, you believe that you have to prove to those around you so much more than they would ever (Yes, EVER) expect from you. Believe me!
I can promise you this:
If you ask people who know you really well if they think you are a fraud at what you do, or want to do, they would laugh. They would think you were...
I also thought this over and over again: «Who am I to think I can create my own business? I’m not even sure what that business should be all about!». Not to forget this one: «Karine, hold your horses! You have no clue where to start and how to do it!»
As you know, I desperately wanted to create my own career. Not only that, I wanted to create a career where I could work from anywhere in the world (or to be precise; where I could work both from Norway and the US, where I have my loved ones).
What does the word «planning» mean you?
I don’t know how important planning have been for you earlier in your life, and in your career. Only you know.
Some people like to write their plans down, others like to just have them in their minds.
We are all different and must do what suit us best! What works for one person doesn’t have to work for her (or his) neighbor.
Planning is like watering your plants
Planning is just as important as water is for your plants. It’s crucial. It’s «everything»…
You have to have your plans in order.
You don’t want to have any big surprises during this period, when you are about to claim your dream career, would you?
Okay… positive surprises are great, but if we don’t plan like a pro, it’s more of the negative surprises we will meet on our way.
And we don’t want those kind of surprises.
We need to plan in order...
Don't get me wrong. It's a lot of work, a lot of planning, and not least: a lot of adjusting. You need to learn what to do first, what to do next and so on. Of course. It's the same thing if you want to learn a foreign language, if you want to learn how to dance salsa or make a special dish. You have to learn.
But when the feeling of staying where you are today is making you depressed and stressed out, it will be «easy-peasy» to do what you have to do in order to make the life you want to live. It really is. It's fun!
When you start to focus on your goal, you go all in. You know what the...
I don't know why, but I just startet to sing this beautiful song by Poison. I haven't heard it for years!
So I had to make a blog post about it. It's so true! We all have our very own thorns.
None of us go through life without experiencing something sad. That is life. It's good, and it's bad. It has its light and it has its dark.
Have you ever thought that the bad things you have experienced can become something that you can help other people survive at? That you can help other people come back to life by using your way of dealing with your own «thorns»,?
Because you have been the one walking in their shoes. You have experienced what other people now go through in their life. You can be someone they can identify with.
Maybe your purpose in life is helping other people who now experience their own trauma. And...
I know you still have hope your dreams will come true. Otherwise you wouldn’t be reading this blog post. You arrived here for a very good reason. You’re searching for an answer. And the exciting news is – you found it!
No matter how vague your dreams are, even if all you know is what you definitely don’t want any more of…! That is the perfect place to start.
The next step is to fill in the details, one thing at a time.
Replace each part of your life that’s stressful or not ideal, with something that’s exciting and feels good to you. It sounds so simple doesn’t it? The good news is – it really is simple!
We often want a new career because we don’t like where we are right now. We want to earn more money and have more freedom to do what we love.
But you will never be happier or feel more fulfilled and aligned with your values, if you don’t follow your life purpose.
Let me tell you a story:
When I started out, I did what I was good at. What I knew. Which was leadership training and fire preventing. I earned a good deal of money on it.
But I didn’t follow my purpose. And what I did was not aligned with my values in life.
So I started to procrastinate. I started being stressed out again, and I was on the same «train» I had been on earlier, working as a fire chief. I was going around in circles.
What I figured out was this:
When you learn what your life purpose really is, you will go all in. You start to see the possibilities and not all the things that can go wrong.
You will not procrastinate. Trust me....
First, let me get one thing 100 percent clear. Like the phrase «loud and clear» that I would have said on my radio if I was still working in the fire department and I wanted those around me to understand that I heard them perfectly:
This blog post is NOT made to brag. It's not to make you feel bad by lifting myself up high.
First of all: I'm not that kind of person. Secondly: I just had to write this to you today. Right now, before making dinner. I know that some of you really really need to read this today.
You see, I have done what I know so many of you want to do: I did what I wanted to do in life. I followed my dreams, my «why», my purpose when I finally found it after being a totally stressed out and angry woman diagnosed with PTSD.