First, I need to say that you can use this exercise on all areas of your life — not just regarding your career. It's just as mind blowing when it comes to your relationships, your health, and other areas of your life.
I use to do this exercise with my clients throughout our coaching and courses. But you can do it yourself as well. Like I said in the beginning: The important thing is that you are honest with yourself and honor your feelings.
Read to the end of this blog post before you start. Then you know what to do next — and why.
This exercise starts by you closing your eyes, taking three deep breaths — and asking yourself this question:
"How will I feel if I continue on the path I'm on right now?"
Hold your eyes closed while you answer yourself this question. How will you feel? Take as much time as you need with your eyes closed, before you open your eyes and write down your answer. Don't worry if you don't remember everything you were thinking. That's not important right now.
Then you are ready to ask yourself a new question.
Again, you close your eyes. Take three long breaths, and ask yourself this question:
"How will it affect my family if I continue on the path I'm on right now?"
How will it affect the people you love when you continue on the path you're on right now? Do they feel your frustration, your stress level – and your anger?
Keep your eyes closed while you answer this question. How will you feel? Take as much time as you need with your eyes closed, before you open your eyes and write down what you answered. Don't worry if you don't remember everything you were thinking. That's not important right now.
Answering these questions can be hard. It can be really hard. I don't do this to make you feel like a bad person. I make you ask yourself these questions in order to open your eyes. So your old pattern and life becomes more clear to you.
Then we are half way there....
We do the same procedure as we did when we asked ourselves the two other questions:
Close your eyes, take three deep breaths – and ask yourself this question:
"How would I feel if I had a career I really loved? A career that gave me energy, that made me feel fulfilled, appreciated and happy?"
(remember that you can change this question the way you want or need. If it's not your career, but your relationship you need clarity on — you just switch the words.)
Keep your eyes closed while you answer the question.So, how would you feel?
This is a fun question! When I sit in front of my clients asking them this question, I see them light up the room.
When you have opened your eyes, write down your answers. Take your time. There's no hurry.
If you have been honest with yourself when you answered these three questions, you now have more clarity on what to do. Should you stay? Or is it time to let go? Either way, you know that you have asked yourself the right questions. You have come a step further. You have your answers on the paper in front of you to help you make up your mind.
From there it's easier to take the next step. And the next....