You see, it's so much safer for us to be where we are right now than doing what it takes to make our dreams possible.
Why? It's human nature.
We want to be in the normal. In our safe spot.
If we had just opened our eyes, we could see the big picture. Then we would see that it's just one thing that makes our dreams impossible.
And that one thing is our fear of failure.
We are so afraid of failure that we come up with all these excuses, ending up back at the starting point. And it is our fears that are talking when we blame all the other factors, like the economy, our even our Facebook friends.
I blamed my Facebook friends. It's true! I did! I said that I couldn't go after my dream because it would confuse them in what my business...
It was so much better before we got our mobile phones, because it is so easy to just snooze five more minutes. And those five minutes becomes five more, and then….
When you finally get out of your bed you spill toothpaste on your shirt, and you get more and more grumpy. And your day just keeps going in a bad direction. It’s like someone threw a curse at you.
What if you had started your day with a smile, stretching your body like a little baby, getting out of the bed at a speed that is preferable an early morning? What if? I can almost say for certain that your day would have turned out so much better. Without all these bad things happening...
Hmmm.. you might be thinking: "No way! Not within a year! And definitely not within 5 months! And 3 months? Karine, are you crazy?"
Maybe you're thinking: "I have no clue what to do next, where to start, I have a ton of fears, I don’t have some specific skills".... yes... and the list just keeps going.
But this crazy Norwegian woman (meee) is here to tell you that your daydream CAN come true! It can! I know it can!
Mine did! Even if I had all those hairy scary obstacles...
From suffering from PTSD, to a huge mortgage on our home. I had a good paying job as a fire chief... You know.. Things that could have held me back, if...listen: IF I hadn't been daydreaming.
I daydreamed of being my own boss, where I would wake up every morning looking forward to a new day. Where I could do something that inspired me,...
Your thoughts create your results. It's that easy. Nothing more, and nothing less.
How often have you told yourself that you can't? And then didn't go through with it? I guess it has happened, right? And not only one time either.
It sure has happened to me. More than once.
Having thoughts like these makes you not go all in. You are slow walking instead of giving it your everything. Because you think you can not.
Stop using the phrase "I'll try".
Using this phrase is like showing yourself and those around you that you really do not want to get to the finish line.
Tell me... If I told you that you had just won 1 billion dollars and asked you to come and get your prize — would you have answered me with the phrase, "I'll try..."? I guess not....
I will not mention my customer's name, what course she participated in — or what her dream was really all about.
What I will share with you is this:
I had been in contact with her for more than a year before she jumped on to one of my courses. I really liked this woman. She was so full of energy, so full of dreams — and she had many of the same values as myself when it came to family, children, hobbies and work.
So when I saw her name in the list of participants on a course I had created, I felt really excited! I could finally work with this woman!
I also have to admit that I was really curios where she would end up. I knew from we spoke the first time that she wanted to change her career to something totally opposite of what she did when we talked the first time....
How should I know that many years later, the same words would go on — over and over in my head. "Should I stay or should I go?" Should I stay in my job, or should I follow this dream I had?
I asked myself this question over and over again. For months and months.
I knew what I had. I had a safe income. I had good colleagues. I had a good job. What I didn't know was what I could expect if I quit my job and went all in on my new dream.
What if I didn't make it? What if I had big regrets? What if we went bankrupt? What if? What if?
It was the first thing I thought about when I woke up in the morning. And the last thing I was...
First, I need to say that you can use this exercise on all areas of your life — not just regarding your career. It's just as mind blowing when it comes to your relationships, your health, and other areas of your life.
I use to do this exercise with my clients throughout our coaching and courses. But you can do it yourself as well. Like I said in the beginning: The important thing is that you are honest with yourself and honor your feelings.
Read to the end of this blog post before you start. Then you know what to do next — and why.
This exercise starts by you closing your eyes, taking three deep breaths — and asking yourself this question:
"How will I feel if I continue on the path I'm on right now?"
Hold your eyes closed while you answer...
Are you ready?
Let's dig into how to plan this new decade. This new time frame. This new beginning!
I need to start this by asking you a crucial question:
Do you have a goal?
Or is it yet just a vague dream? If it's still just a vague dream, let's see how we can make a SMART goal out of it!
(...Those of you who know me, know that I'm a H U G E fan of so called SMART goals).
Let me give you an example that you might recognize when it comes to
a dream VS a goal:
I can say that I want to visit Italy. I have that on my Bucket List. It seems like a beautiful country, with delicious food and beautiful scenery. This is a dream that I have. The minute...
They just started out because it seemed like a quick fix, or something everyone else did (so than it would work for them as well…)
…We don’t want you to get there, right? Nope!
Okay… So where do I go from here, you might ask.
You have to be working on your goal. Like: working big time!
Just to see if it’s reachable. Like if you have a goal of becoming a pilot. Then one of the tasks you have to do is to take a test of your vision, right?
Let’s say that the eye doctor says...