Sorry, But You're Wrong

Uncategorized Jul 02, 2019


When I start coaching a client, and we start to talk about what career would be "the one" for them, I always write their answer down with a question mark.

Do I not believe them? Of course I do! I believe that they "think" that what they describe to me is "the one" career for them. But it's often not what's right for them... What they really, really want. Deep down.


You see...

There are so many factors that makes us believe it's something special we should be doing for a living. 

I want to share 3 of the factors with you here in this blog post, so let's dive right in!

Are you ready?


Number 1, Your Values

Your values describes who you are. They describe what you really want in life, and how you should live your life in order to live the life you really deserve and desire.

Sometimes your values can work against you. It's not that you have the wrong set of values. Nothing is wrong or right when it come to your values. They only describe how you want to live your life.

I will talk more about values, and the importance of describing them "the right way" in order to get where you want to go, in a later blog post. Let's just "fast track" on what's important now:

How you describe your values can work against you if one of your values are:

"I value certainty". We all know that certainty is not what describes an entrepreneur, one who are in charge of their own career in the beginning. In that way this value will work against you. But, when you redefine that value, it will help you on your journey.

But, let's get back to where we started. When my client describes their values, what's important for them, and how they desire to live their life, their values might not fit at ALL with what career they said they thought was "the one".


Number 2, What Makes You Happy

What makes you happy in your everyday life, has something to do with what career you should have.

Now you might want to say that: "Yeeeeaaahhh right. I could never make a career out of THAT!" Don't be so sure of that! 

But don't get me wrong on this one. If I say that sleeping in late every single day, not doing a single thing the whole day except laying in my bed watching movies is what makes me happy, I know for me I couldn't make a career out of it. I think that you wouldn't be able to do that either.  

But what makes you happy when you're not at work is something that is aligned with what your purpose really is. What you're meant to do.

You see... When there are hard times in your business, doing what you love will make you go that extra mile.

It's an important factor for success. It really is.


Number 3, What You Are Good At

I know, I know... You might say that you would looooove to bake, and make an online career out of that by teaching other people how to do it. But you know deep down that your end result always sucks (sorry for my language, if that is a bad word in English! Remember that I'm a Norwegian woman, and sometimes it means different things in our countries...)

You forget some ingredients or you forget the cake in the oven. That's not a good start. You know that you CAN become good at it. It just takes more time.

But, let's be honest... When you do what you love, it's pretty much safe to say that you're good at it as well! That's why you love it so much! Agree?

Let's take another example. Let's say that "The One Thing" you think you should be turning into a new career is accounting. Because it has been your career up until now. You are good at it, and you think that if you turn it into your own business, everything will be so much better than it is today.

Being an accountant is also what's expected of you. From your family, friends and the colleagues you have today.

That is what you know. And you like it.

But that is maybe not what you should be be doing! You will like it for a while. But then you get tired of it. You get stressed out, and you are back on the "hamster wheel". Just where you were before you started out. In that case I have to say I'm sorry, but you were wrong. It's correct that being an accountant is what defines you today. But that might not be the dream career that will let you live your life on your own terms, just the way you deserve and desire...