Maybe not want you want to hear, but...

I want to tell you something you might not want to hear. Not from me, not from anyone else.

But someone needs to tell you this. And today, I'm the one telling you this.

You see..
I talk with so many people who are today where I was a few years ago. 

They are tired, they are fed up, and they don't want to continue on the path they are on right now.

All they want is to make a good life for them selves and for their loved ones. They want to be there for their children, for their parents that are needing their help more than ever. They want to have the energy to be with their friends, or to work out. And they are dreaming of some me-time where they could take a long shower or watch a serie on Netflix.

They want to have a meaningful life, without stress and anger.

BUT:

(I know... There is always a "but"!)

They just want to have all this... They are not willing to do the work needed to get there. To get to a place where they have the energy to take a long nice talk with their kids, or a cozy walk with their parents.

Oh, no. They just "want" it.

There are a lot of things I "want" as well. I "want" to travel all over the world, and I "want" to be good at gardening.

But that's all. I just "want" it. I'm not willing to do the work needed to get there.
And I know myself... If I was desperate. If I really really really (yes, 3 times "really" is dead serious) wanted to travel all over the world, let's say one year from now, I would have started to search for routes to go, or make a budget of what was needed. Or I would read everything I could about traveling the world, and also ask someone who had done it before me.

I know there are so many of you who just "want" to make your dreams come true. Who just "want" to make your own business, and do something good that gives you energy and hopes.

If you are one of those, then it's not your time yet. Then you are not ready to do the work needed. Then you will not stand in the storm when things get rough.
(Because things will get rough. You will have days where you need that extra spark to get going. But it's so worth it...)

Sometimes it breaks my heart to say this to people I talk with. But somebody needs to say it to them. And I feel committed to be honest. 

You see...
If you're not ready to do the work needed of you, then please don't spend your days (and nights) on frustrating thoughts, on anxiousness and fears when it comes to your job, and what to do next (like in "should I make myself a new career?" and "what about my retirement plan and my life insurance?")

Please don't. You are here on this earth a short amount of time. Use it wisely. Spend your time on things that matter. Like your children, your loved one, your family in general and your friends.

Don't chase something you're not ready to receive. When you are ready, then you will go all in. I know this. I've been there. I spent years wondering what to do... But I didn't do the work needed. Not until the day I realized what was important to me. Then it was no way back. Then I went all in.

And today... Nearly three years later, I wish someone had told me these hard words. They didn't. But now I say them to you.

Not to make you feel bad. Not to embarrass you. But to give you a helping hand. The hand I wish someone had given me back then....

Maybe these questions will help you become more clear,

they definitily helped me...:

Yes, Please! I need these questions!